There’s a lot of inspiring social media content out there at the moment that’s challenging us to use lockdown as an opportunity to pursue self-improvement, and to manage our time well, and fit in loads of exercise, learning, creativity and new skills.
I don’t know about you, but I certainly came into this season feeling inspired and excited about all the cool stuff I was going to learn. I had this amazing mental image of myself coming out of quarantine significantly more accomplished and well read, with super toned arms and abs, amazing musical skills, and a load of artwork, ready to take the world by storm with a new business idea.
It’s important to have goals, and it’s great to pursue new skills, and to be intentional about fitness, learning, and time management. Ideally, this should add something to our lives, and make us feel great about ourselves. But sometimes our motivation for these things can come from a place of feeling crap about ourselves, and that we need these things to increase our sense of worth, or to make ourselves appear more “cool” and interesting to others. When trying to be more creative comes from comparison, it will have the effect of making us feel defeated, and like we have something to prove to the world, or something that we have to measure up to. When it’s like that, it’s not fun or enjoyable, and it is not nourishing, only draining.
I noticed that this week, when I tried to write a blog post on my own platform, after challenging myself to write one post a week, all I felt was frustration and a sense of inadequacy. I was annoyed with myself that I haven’t really wanted to write creatively for a long time, and I had this massive self-imposed deadline that I was trying to hit. I left the whole process with an un-finished blog post and a grumpy mood. Later, I realised that I have forgotten how to do things purely for fun.
We need to remember that these are weird times, and that it’s not realistic or healthy to put massive expectations on ourselves. We need to not beat ourselves up over having an “unproductive day” where we wake up later, and don’t do everything on our to-do list on the same day. We need to give ourselves space to process our thoughts, and look after ourselves mentally. If that looks like eating a lot of sugary snacks and watching a lot of Netflix, that’s OK! Do what you need to do to feel good.
And remember, that by staying at home, YOU ARE SAVING LIVES! So whatever you are doing, you are being productive.
If you are aiming to upskill yourself, or be more creative, or to adopt a healthier lifestyle, please make sure you are doing it from a foundation of self love. Make sure you are doing it to nourish yourself. And please do not forget to have fun doing it! It helps to break it down into small goals.
This week, I have decided to set myself three “work” goals. Creating new content for the Curricula and Co social media feed, completing my Masters application, and finding full time jobs to apply for. I’m not Setting three goals for each week is working for me. What’s working for you?
Let us know in the comments. We would love to hear from you!