Jobs can be lost for a number of different reasons. Companies closing down or relocating, companies laying people off due to limited resources, or deciding you are not performing well enough to meet expectations. Whatever reason this happens, it can feel like your world is being turned upside down, especially if it is a job you really liked and wanted to succeed in. Every situation is completely different, and everyone responds to things like this in different ways. You might be angry, you might be sad, or asking “why me?” It can knock confidence, and, if we let it, cause us to feel not good enough, or less than.
If this is happening to you, I want to let you know that you will find a way forward. So many people have come through similar and worse situations multiple times before finding their happy place, or the thing they love doing. Also, it’s ok to be upset for a while. Allow yourself the space to get over the shock, and get the heavy emotions out of your system. You have just had horrible news, and you need time to decompress! You will, sooner than you think, be able to think clearly and plan your next steps.
Here are a few helpful tips to help you gather your thoughts:
Past posts on this blog tell the stories of people who have failed and been disappointed many times, before they found success in ways that were different to how they thought they would, but turned out to be way better than they could have hoped for. Have a read of them, and be inspired!
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A budget is simply taking inventory of your income every month, and setting aside the money you need for your outgoing, and planning how to spend the rest.
It is a way of being accountable to yourself. A good way to do this is to put your money for bills and rent, and essential outgoings into a separate account, and giving yourself a weekly allowance for groceries and other things, including the odd treat for yourself!
Just because you might wobble sometimes does not mean you are taking a step backward and ruining all your progress.
You might be training yourself, for example, to approach life with a more positive view of yourself, and what you can do, but training means more than just transforming everything in one go.
What matters is the general direction you are moving in. If you are overall having more good days than bad days, you are winning!
When we cling too tightly to independence and ‘I’ve got this’ mindsets, it can be easy to isolate ourselves, and hold people at arm’s length while we toil hard to build our castles and our dreams.
It is really ironic how in such a connected world, full of apps, bleeps, instant messages, and constant streams of on-demand information, images and sounds, it’s so easy to end up in narrow bubbles of ‘me’, and for community and friendship to get pushed to the side, as we get drawn in by the lie that we don’t have time for friends and hanging out any more.
The only problem is, when we are stuck in our own heads all the time, our perspective can get squashed and skewed, making us see things as more negative, and obstacles as bigger than they really are.
Something as simple as talking and being heard can blow away so many cobwebs. All it takes is a phone call, or inviting your girls or your bros round for pizza, or to grab a coffee.
Talking things out and receiving the input and hearing the fresh perspectives and ideas of others can cause you to see things differently, or to make you realise that the thing you had thought insurmountable was not really much of an issue in the first place…
Check out this great article to find out more about how awesome talking is
Once you have a big savings goal, like buying a house, or a new car, or that dream holiday, it can be hard to look at how far you have to go in order to get there. The only way you will get there is by making small decisions everyday.
In the moment, small choices might seem insignificant. For example, spend £3.50 on that oatmilk double-shot special blend roast flat white with extra vanilla syrup and cream on top before work every day, or pick up that bargain top in the sale at New Look, or that scented candle that you absolutely need to have right now, and get your dinner ingredients in Sainsbury’s because it’s nearer, rather than getting the bus to Aldi where stuff is actually just as good, but for a much lower price.
Imagine if you started making little switches in your little daily habits, the things you buy, and where you buy them, and maybe think twice before buying something you don’t actually need - how much money would you have left at the end of the month? What might you be able to do with that extra money? If you put that surplus in your savings account month after month, how much money would you have at the end of a year? Two years? Five years, even?
This is something you could start today!
Try skipping the branded high street coffee, and make your own coffee at the kitchen at work (if your work has a kitchen) who knows, you might get chatting to your co-workers, and get to know them a little better...Next time, walk away from the candles! If you want to spruce up your home, rearrange the furniture, or bring in some flowers from outside. Be creative with what you already have! Head over to your budget supermarket, and see for yourself how much you can get for so little money.
Maybe start with one or two habits at a time, and see where it takes you...for more ideas, have a look at this article from Save The Student (which is also good for non-students) that has over 80 simple hacks that could save you a lot…